Yesterday I saw The Beatles, and the memories of that time in my life flooded back to me. While I was in second grade when John, Paul, George and Ringo appeared on the Ed Sullivan Show, I grew up with them…

What are your memories of high school? What was the college admission process like for you—or did you go straight to work? What are the thoughts and feelings you have around that time—of yourself, your friends, your classes/education, your parents, and how you entered and completed the college search and selection process? Are you aware of the influence those memories may be having on your teen’s experience—or how you are interacting with your teen? It’s one of the first—of the zillion—questions to be asking yourself.

If you’re the parent of a junior—fantastic! You have an early start on the process. If you’re the parent of a senior—well, it’s not too late, but there is some serious catching up to do.

Here’s a recent interview with Bianca and Phillip, of Let’s Talk! We had a wide-ranging, information packed conversation which posted on September 8th. (Search for that date.)

Before listening, think of what’s important to you and your teen right now and in the coming months. If you don’t hear an answer or if you want to learn more, contact me to set up a complimentary Strategy Session.


I love making the time to think about what’s important to me!

Honestly though, crafting all my (divergent) thoughts into a coherent piece to share with others is really challenging. The process makes me appreciate the process that my “coachees” endure when I suggest the fourth or fifth revision of their essays for college applications.

Just the other week I completed a teleclass in writing a manifesto. I want teens and their parents to truly understand the foundation for my coaching approach, program and resources for families. True to form, I wrote down ideas, envisioned how it would come together as a picture (!) and then used words and a drawing for the first draft (below)… I am refining it still.

My Manifesto


All the time devoted to thinking about what’s important to me led me to add to my ideas about how parents’ and teens’ roles change over time—a topic near and dear to my heart. With the opportunity to write for Inner Peace Parenting, an emag, I developed my mission statement as a parent. I hope you will read it, My Parent Mission Statement and then consider looking at Inner Peace Parenting’s current edition which contains so many terrific articles by friends and colleagues.

May I suggest that you make the time to engage in reflection about what’s important to you and how you endeavor to live those values and beliefs every day. Please write to me with your reflections about the process, your mission statement or manifesto—I’m collecting them!


And, check out these great examples of manifestos:


The You Matter Manifesto by Angela Maiers, http://www.angelamaiers.com/2012/01/the-you-matter-manifesto.html

The RightBrain Terrain Manifesto, http://rightbrainterrain.com/Manifesto.htm

The Create Manifesto, http://www.pinkparadigm.com/MarcysManifesto.htm

Seth Godin’s Stop Stealing Dreams, http://www.squidoo.com/stop-stealing-dreams








Yippee! One of my favorite topics is on the front pages… okay, the front pages of Education Week, yet the front pages nonetheless!

I am passionate about helping teens and families ensure that young adults heading off to college are fully prepared to be there—academically, emotionally, and socially. Teens need to be college-ready not just college eligible. I write about it, talk about it with teens and parents—and now the conversation is happening at a national level! This critical conversation has implications for you.

This article,  Testing Consortium Crafts College-Readiness Definition – Curriculum Matters – Education Week (do not be scared off by the title) highlights the current thinking about the knowledge and skills student need to have at various levels in their school life.  While you don’t need to know the details now… The “takeaway” from all of this is…You/Teens and their families need to have an eye toward the future! Life at college is mulitfaceted, and having the skills to navigate the:

  • academic workload—classes, studying, tests, papers, projects, internships, etc.
  • social life—rooomate(s), free time, parties, interpersonal and romantic/sexual relationships, refusal skills re: drugs and alcohol, etc.
  • daily living realities—eating well and sleeping enough, money management, laundry, etc.

are foundational to success on campus.

Learn more here… Here are two resources: My short video about becoming college ready and one of the many articles I share with audiences at schools, conferences, and parent workshops.

How to Pick the Right College|Prepare Your Teen to be College Ready

College eligible v. ready


Musings on Parenthood…

This morning I wrote to my daughter about how really wonderful it is that she is finding her way in the exciting, and yet messy, world of work.  Then, I was struck by the thought that it was a “mom” kind of thing to say—and I believe that while there is some of that left in our relationship, we have more conversations as equals/peers/colleagues these days… and I reflected on the times that she has been respectful of the work/volunteering/learning that I do, and I felt content.  We have reached a new place in our relationship…


Making TEA… Time, Energy & Abundance for Parents of Teens

Parents of teens no longer want or need support in guiding their children

Parenting teens at its best…
challenging and rewarding
self awareness
respect for your teen
the ability to realize one’s mistakes and apologize for them
personal growth
a trusted adult with whom to share thoughts and feelings
a relationship with your teen, in the present, and in the future

When was the last time that you created the time/space to think about the parent you want to be?
How can you help your teen realize her/his dream?
Would you like to talk about the parent you want to be?  Contact me.

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